|#1|| I've been romantic and imaginative.|
I've been pragmatic and down to earth.
|#2|| I have tended to take on confrontations.|
I have tended to avoid confrontations.
|#3|| I have typically been diplomatic, charming, and ambitious.|
I have typically been direct, formal, and idealistic.
|#4|| I have tended to be focused and intense.|
I have tended to be spontaneous and fun-loving.
|#5|| I have been a hospitable person and have enjoyed welcoming new friends into my life.|
I have been a private person and have not mixed much with others.
|#6|| It's been difficult for me to relax and stop worrying about potential problems.|
It's been difficult for me to get worked up about potential problems.
|#7|| I've been more of a "street-smart" survivor.|
I've been more a "high-minded" idealist.
|#8|| I have needed to show affection to people.|
I have preferred to maintain some distance with some people.
|#9|| When presented with a new experience, I've usually asked myself if it would be useful to me.|
When presented with a new experience, I've usually asked myself if it would be enjoyable.
|#10|| I have tended to focus too much on myself.|
I have tended to focus too much on others.
|#11|| Others have depended on my insight and knowledge.|
Others have depended on my strength and decisiveness.
|#12|| I have come across as being too unsure of myself.|
I have come across as being too sure of myself.
|#13|| I have been more relationship-oriented than goal-oriented.|
I have been more goal-oriented than relationship-oriented.
|#14|| I have not been able to speak up for myself very well.|
I've been outspoken--I've said what others wished they had the nerve to say.
|#15|| It's been difficult for me to stop considering alternatives and do something definite.|
It's been difficult for me to to take it easy and be more flexible.
|#16|| I have tended to be careful and hesitant.|
I have tended to be bold and domineering.
|#17|| My reluctance to get too involved has gotten me into trouble with people.|
My eagerness to have people depend on me has gotten me into trouble with them.
|#18|| Usually, I have been able to put my feelings aside to get the job done.|
Usually, I have needed to work through my feelings before I could act.
|#19|| Generally, I've been methodical and cautious.|
Generally, I've been adventurous and taken risks.
|#20|| I have tended to be a supportive, giving person who seeks intimacy with others.|
I have tended to be a serious, reserved person who likes discussing issues.
|#21|| I've often felt the need to be a pillar of strength.|
I've often felt the need to perform perfectly.
|#22|| I've typically been interested in asking tough questions and maintaining my independence.|
I've typically been interested in maintaining my stability and peace of mind.
|#23|| I've been a bit cynical and skeptical.|
I've been a bit mushy and sentimental.
|#24|| I've often worried that I'm missing out on something better.|
I'm often worried that if I let down my guard, someone will take advantage of me.
|#25|| My habit of being "stand-offish" has annoyed people.|
My habit of telling people what to do has annoyed people.
|#26|| I have tended to get anxious if there was too much excitement and stimulation.|
I have tended to get anxious if there wasn't enough excitement and stimulation.
|#27|| I have depended on my friends and they have known that they can depend on me.|
I have not depended on people; I have done things on my own.
|#28|| I have tended to be detached and preoccupied.|
I have tended to be moody and self-absorbed.
|#29|| I have liked to challenge people and "shake them up."|
I have liked to comfort people and calm them down.
|#30|| I have generally been an outgoing, sociable person.|
I have generally been an earnest, self-disciplined person.
|#31|| I've wanted to "fit in" with others—I get uncomfortable when I stand out too much.|
I've wanted to stand out from others—I get uncomfortable when I don't distinguish myself.
|#32|| Pursuing my personal interests has been more important to me than having stability and security.|
Having stability and security has been more important to me than pursuing my personal interests.
|#33|| When I've had conflicts with others, I've tended to withdraw.|
When I've had conflicts with others, I've rarely backed down.
|#34|| I have given in too easily and let others push me around.|
I have been too uncompromising and demanding with others.
|#35|| I've been appreciated for my unsinkable spirit and resourcefulness.|
I've been appreciated for my deep caring and personal warmth.
|#36|| I have wanted to make a favorable impression on others.|
I have cared little about making a favorable impression on others.
|#37|| I've depended on my perseverance and common sense.|
I've depended on my imagination and moments of inspiration.
|#38|| Basically, I have been easy-going and agreeable.|
Basically, I have been hard-driving and assertive.
|#39|| I have worked hard to be accepted and well-liked.|
Being accepted and well-liked has not been a high priority for me.
|#40|| In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more withdrawn.|
In reaction to pressure from others, I have become more assertive.
|#41|| People have been interested in me because I've been outgoing, engaging, and interested in them.|
People have been interested in me because I've been quiet, unusual, and deep.
|#42|| Duty and responsbility have been important values for me.|
Harmony and acceptance have been important values for me.
|#43|| I've tried to motivate people by making big plans and big promises.|
I've tried to motivate people by pointing out the consequences of not following my advice.
|#44|| I have seldom been emotionally demonstrative.|
I have often been emotionally demonstrative.
|#45|| Dealing with details has not been one of my strong suits.|
I have excelled at dealing with details.
|#46|| I have often emphasized how different I am from most peoples, especially my family.|
I have often emphasized how much I have in common with most people, especially my family.
|#47|| When situations have gotten heated, I have tended to stay on the sidelines.|
When situations have gotten heated, I have tended to get right into the middle of things.
|#48|| I have stood by my friends, even when they have been wrong.|
I have not wanted to compromise what is right even for friendship.
|#49|| I've been a well-meaning supporter.|
I've been a highly-motivated go-getter.
|#50|| When troubled, I have tended to brood about my problems.|
When troubled, I have tended to find distractions for myself.
|#51|| Generally, I've had strong convictions and a sense of how things should be.|
Generally, I've had serious doubts and have questioned how things seemed to be.
|#52|| I've created problems with others by being pessimistic and complaining.
I've created problems with others by being bossy and controlling.
|#53|| I have tended to act on my feelings and let the "chips fall where they may."|
I have tended not to act on my feelings lest they stir up more problems.
|#54|| Being the center of attention has usually felt natural to me.|
Being the center of attention has usually felt strange to me.
|#55|| I've been careful, and have tried to prepare for unforeseen problems.
I've been spontaneous, and have preferred to improvise as problems come up.
|#56|| I have gotten angry when others have not shown enough appreciation for what I have done for them. |
I have gotten angry when others have not listened to what I have told them.
|#57|| Being independent and self reliant has been important to me.|
Being valued and admired has been important to me.
|#58|| When I've debated with friends, I've tended to press my arguments forcefully.|
When I've debated with friends, I've tended to let things go to prevent hard feelings.
|#59|| I have often been possessive of loved ones—I have had trouble letting them be.
I have often "tested" loved ones to see if they were really there for me
|#60|| Organizing resources and making things happen has been one of my major strengths.|
Coming up with new ideas and getting people excited about them has been one of my major strengths.
|#61|| I've tended to be driven and very hard on myself. |
I've tended to be too emotional and rather undisciplined.
|#62|| I have tried to keep my life fast-paced, intense, and exciting.|
I have tried to keep my life regular, stable, and peaceful.
|#63|| Even though I've had successes, I've tended to doubt my abilities.
Even though I've had setbacks, I've had a lot of confidence in my abilities.
|#64|| I generally have tended to dwell on my feelings and to hold onto them for a long time.|
I generally have tended to minimize my feelings and not pay very much attention to them.
|#65|| I have provided many people with attention and nurturance.|
I have provided many people with direction and motivation.
|#66|| I've been a bit serious and strict with myself.|
I've been a bit free-wheeling and permissive with myself.
|#67|| I've been self-assertive and driven to excel.|
I've been modest and have been happy to go at my own pace.
|#68|| I have been proud of my clarity and objectivity.|
I have been proud of my reliability and commitment.
|#69|| I have spent a lot of time looking inward—understanding my feelings has been important to me.|
I have not spent much time looking inward—getting things done has been important to me.
|#70|| Generally, I have thought of myself as a sunny, casual person.|
Generally, I have thought of myself as a serious, dignified person.
|#71|| I've had an agile mind and boundless energy.|
I've had a caring heart and deep dedication.
|#72|| I have pursued activities that had a substantial potential for reward and personal recognition.|
I have been willing to give up reward and personal recognition if it meant doing work I was really interested in.
|#73|| Fulfilling social obligations has seldom been high on my agenda.|
I have usually have taken my social obligations
|#74|| In most situations, I have preferred to take the lead.|
In most situations, I have preferred to let someone else take the lead.
|#75|| Over the years, my values and lifestyle have changed several times.|
Over the years, my values and lifestyle have remained fairly consistent.
|#76|| Typically, I have not had much self-discipline.|
Typically, I have not had much connection with people.
|#77|| I have tended to withhold my affection and have wanted others to come into my world.|
I have tended to give my affection too freely, and have wanted to extend myself to others.
|#78|| I have had a tendency to think of worst case scenarios.|
I have had a tendency to think that everything will work out for the best.
|#79|| People have trusted me because I am confident and can look out for them.|
People have me because I am fair and will do what is right.
|#80|| Often, I have been so involved in my own projects that I have become isolated from others.|
Often, I have been so involved with others that have neglected my own projects.
|#81|| When meeting new, I have usually been poised and self-contained.|
When meeting someone new, I have usually been chatty and entertaining.
|#82|| Generally speaking, I have tended to be pessimistic.|
Generally speaking, I have tended to be optimistic.
|#83|| I have preferred to inhabit my own little world.|
I have preferred to let the world know I 'm here.
|#84|| I have often been troubled by nervousness, insecurity, and doubt.|
I have often been troubled by anger, perfectionism, and impatience.
|#85|| I realize that I have often been too personal and intimate.|
I realize that I have often been too cool and aloof.
|#86|| I have lost out because I have not felt up to taking opportunities.|
I have lost out because I have pursued too many possibilities.
|#87|| I have tended to take a long time to get into action.|
I have tended to get into action quickly.
|#88|| I usually have had difficulty making decisions.|
I seldom have had difficulty making decisions.
|#89|| I have had a tendency to come on a little too strong with people.|
I have had a tendency not to assert myself enough with people.
|#90|| Typically, I have been even-tempered.|
Typically, I have had strong changes of mood.
|#91|| When I've been unsure of what to do, I've often sought the advice of others.|
I've been unsure of what to do, I've tried different things to see what best for me.
|#92|| I have worried that I would be left out of others' activities.|
I have worried that others' activities would distract me from what I had to do.
|#93|| Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have told people off.|
Typically, when I have gotten angry, I have become distant.
|#94|| I've tended to have trouble falling asleep.|
I've tended to fall asleep easily.
|#95|| I have often tried to figure out how I could get closer to others.|
I have often tried to figure out what others want from me.
|#96|| I have usually been measured, straight-talking, and deliberate.|
I have usually been excitable, fast-talking, and witty.
|#97|| Often, I have not spoken up when I've seen others making a mistake.|
Often, I have helped others see that they are making a mistake.
|#98|| During most of my life, I have been a stormy person who has had many volatile feelings.|
During most of my life, I have been a steady person in whom "still waters run deep."
|#99|| When I have disliked people, I have usually tried hard to stay cordial—despite my feelings.|
When I have disliked people, I have usually let them know it—one way or another.
|#100|| Much of my difficulty with people has come from my touchiness and taking everything too personally.|
Much of my difficulty with people has come from my not caring about social conventions.
|#101|| My approach has been to jump in and rescue people.|
My approach has been to show people how to help themselves.
|#102|| Generally, I have enjoyed "letting go" and pushing the limits.|
Generally, I have not enjoyed losing control of myself very much.
|#103|| I've been overly concerned with doing better than others.|
I've been overly concerned with making things okay for others.
|#104|| My thoughts generally have been speculative—involving my imagination and curiosity.|
My thoughts generally have been practical—just trying to keep things going.
|#105|| One of my main assets has been my ability to take charge of situations.|
One of my main assets has been my ability to describe internal states.
|#106|| I have pushed to get things done correctly, even if it made people uncomfortable.|
I have not liked feeling pressured, so I have not liked pressuring anyone else.
|#107|| I've often taken pride in how important I am in others' lives.|
I've often taken pride in my gusto and openness to new experiences.
|#108|| I have perceived that I've often come across to others as presentable, even admirable.|
I have perceived I've often come across to others as unusual, even odd.
|#109|| I have mostly done what I had to do.|
I have mostly done what I wanted to do.
|#110|| I have usually enjoyed high-pressure, even difficult, situations.|
I have usually disliked high-pressure, even difficult, situations.
|#111|| I've been proud of my ability to be flexible—what's appropriate or important often changes.|
I've been proud of my ability to take a stand—I've been firm about what I believe in.
|#112|| My style has leaned toward spareness and austerity.|
My style has leaned toward excess and over-doing things.
|#113|| My own health and well-being have suffered because of my strong desire to help others.|
My relationships have suffered because of my strong desire to attend to my personal needs
|#114|| Generally speaking, I've been too open and naive.|
Generally speaking, I've been too wary and guarded.
|#115|| I have sometimes put people off by being too aggressive.|
I have sometimes put people off by being too "uptight."
|#116|| Being of service and attending to the needs of others has been a high priority for me.|
Finding alternative ways of seeing and doing things has been a high priority for me.
|#117|| I've been single-minded and persistent in pursuing my goals.|
I've preferred to explore various courses of action to see where they lead.
|#118|| I have frequently been drawn to situations that stir up deep, intense emotions.|
I have frequently been drawn to situations that make me calm and at ease.
|#119|| I have cared less about practical results than about pursuing my interests.|
I have been practical and have expected my work to have concrete results.
|#120|| I have had a deep need to belong.|
I have had a deep need to feel balanced.
|#121|| In the past, I've probably insisted on much closeness in my friendships.|
In the past, I've probably kept much distance in my friendships.
|#122|| I've had a tendency to keep thinking about things from the past.|
I've had a tendency to keep anticipating things I'm going to do.
|#123|| I've tended to see people as intrusive and demanding.|
I've tended to see people as disorganized and irresponsible.
|#124|| Generally, I have not had much confidence in myself.|
Generally, I have had confidence in myself.
|#125|| I've probably been too passive and uninvolved.|
I've probably been controlling and manipulative.
|#126|| I've frequently been stopped in my tracks by my self-doubt.|
I've rarely let self-doubt stand in my way.
|#127|| Given a choice something familiar and something new, I've usually chosen something new.|
I've generally chosen what I knew I already liked: why be disappointed with something I might not like?
|#128|| I have given a lot of physical contact to reassure others about how I feel about them.|
I have generally felt that real love does not depend on physical contact.
|#129|| When I've needed to confront someone, I've often been too harsh and direct.|
When I've to confront I've often "beaten around the bush" too much.
|#130|| I have been attracted to subjects that others would probably find disturbing, even frightening.|
I have preferred not to spend my time dwelling on disturbing and frightening subjects.
|#131|| I have gotten into trouble with people by being too intrusive and interfering.|
I have gotten into trouble with people by being too evasive and uncommunicative.
|#132|| I've worried that I don't have the resources to fulfill the responsibilities I've taken on.|
I've worried that I don't have the self-discipline to focus on what will really fulfill me.
|#133|| Generally, I've been a highly intuitive, individualistic person.|
Generally, I've been a highly organized, responsible person.
|#134|| Overcoming inertia has been of my main problems.|
Being unable to slow down has been one of my main problems.
|#135|| When I've felt insecure, I've reacted by becoming arrogant and dismissive.|
When I've felt insecure, I've reacted by becoming defensive and argumentative.
|#136|| I have been open-minded and willing to try new approaches.|
I have generally been self-revealing and willing to share my feelings with others.
|#137|| I've presented myself to others as tougher than I really am.|
I've myself to others as caring more than I really do.
|#138|| I usually have followed my conscience and reason.|
I usually have followed my feelings and impulses.
|#139|| Serious adversity has made me hardened and resolute.|
Serious adversity has made me feel discouraged and resigned.
|#140|| I usually have made sure that I had some kind of "safety net" to fall back on.|
I usually have chosen to live on the edge and to depend as little as possible.
|#141|| I've had to be strong for others, so I haven't had time to deal with my feelings and fears.|
I've had difficulty coping with my feelings and fears, so it's been hard for me to be strong for others.
|#142|| I have often wondered why people focus on the negative when there is so much that's wonderful about life.|
I have often wondered why people are so happy when so much in life is messed up.
|#143|| I have tried hard not to be seen as a selfish person.|
I have tried hard not to be seen as a boring person.
|#144|| I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would be overwhelmed by people's needs and demands.|
I have avoided intimacy when I feared I would not be able to live up to people's expectations of me.
|The following questions are optional, but recommended. Please answer truthfully.|
||male female other |
||male female other |
|What Myers-Briggs type do you identify as?
|What Enneagram type do you identify as?
|Any additional comments?